Sometimes navigating our way through the ups and downs of life gets really hard. We are constantly reminded to ‘be heart centred‘ in all we do. I even hear it referred to regularly in the cooking shows we watch.
But life can get in the way. Stuff happens. Those mantra inspired good intentions fly out the window. We react and lose our cool. We stop listening and hearing. I mean uncluttered listening and hearing through the heart. Both require attention to be paid to more than mere sound. Both require an openness, a presence that absorbs and notes all the subtle nuances inherent within each. And that means listening and hearing with the eyes, with intuition, with Soul – with heart. Getting to that state is the tricky bit.
As we walk, run, jump for joy or crawl, scream and howl through life, we collect ‘stuff’ that gets in the way of that clarity. That accumulated ‘stuff’ impacts on how we think, feel and react to life – it’s events, challenges, emotional charges. If the ‘stuff’ is positive we are more prone to experiencing life and all it offers from a happy and centred state of being. However, if it is hurtful, traumatic, ugly, if our buttons are pushed, we are more prone to experiencing life and all it offers from a dark space.
The ‘stuff’ I am referring to is composed of a conglomerate of values and beliefs we have adopted and adapted as our own. Some are inherited from family, some from social networks, some from prevailing culture and peers. Underlined and perhaps consolidated by personal experiences as we grow and mature. It’s a complex network of ‘stuff’.
The dilemma all this ‘stuff’ creates is that it tends to get in the way of clear, open, heart centred ways of being with oneself and others. Including listening and hearing. Now we could spend a lifetime sitting on a mountain top somewhere clearing all the emotional garbage. Nothing wrong with that if that’s what you want to do.
Most however, prefer to immerse themselves in life with other people. We are social creatures after all. It is still possible, of course, to do all that inner work. It’s hard yakka but worth the time and effort. For those who prefer not to delve deeply into their inner psyches, there is a much simpler option:
Take just a few minutes of uninterrupted me-time. Find a space where you feel peaceful and happy. Sit with your spine straight, feet flat on the ground, hands loosely on your lap or by your side. Take three long, deep breaths – in through the nose, out through the mouth. With your eyes closed, ‘look’ down into your heart. This immediately takes your attention there. Next imagine that a golden cord connects you to the Heart of Unconditional Love, whatever that may be for you. Then imagine a strong, solid root emanating from your heart space, through the soles of your feet, connecting you to the core of the earth. You are now Heart Centred, Connected and Grounded.
Do this every morning with the intent that you will be heart centred in all you do. You might find you need to top up now and then. I certainly do! Practice makes it easier.
© Raili Tanska