WHAT LIES WITHIN
It has been a busy time for us. Road tripping, as lovely as it was, threw all routines out the window. Which is as it should be. Returning home was lovely. As it should be. Finding our house being munched by termites definitely wasn’t so lovely.
As in the famous poem by Robert Burns ‘the best laid plans of mice and men often go awry’ so did our renovation plans. What the house munchers have done is forced us to reconsider our renovation schedule. Tearing down and rebuilding our entryway is now top priority instead of ‘when we get to it sometime in the future’. In order to do that, the cupboard in the existing entry needs to be emptied. I’m faced with a forced decluttering. And finding a new space in which to store the bits
we I want to keep. It was meant to be another one of those jobs for ‘down the track sometime’.
This whole saga has got me to thinking about things that lurk beyond our sight, which, when they surface, act as a catalyst for a whole different, often unexpected direction. A forced change perhaps ? Or is it more about acceptance? Maybe passivity? Perhaps even resignation ? What’s the difference anyway?!
What does the dictionary have to say ?
Change is an act or process through which something becomes different.
Acceptance is the action of consenting to receive or undertake something offered, or the process or fact of being received as adequate, valid, or suitable.
Passivity is allowing others to do things to you without complaining or pushing back.
Resignation is the acceptance of something undesirable but inevitable.
What does all that mean then – according to me
Life is all about change. The longer we live, the more changes we go through – it’s as inevitable as death and taxes.
Some change is good. Some change we actively seek. Some change is neutral. Some change is just yuk. What I have learnt over the years is that if the change is unavoidable it is in my best interest to simply accept it and get on with life and whatever has to be done. That, to me, is acceptance. Passivity implies non-participation or non-action in the event/change. A being ‘done to’ rather than a ‘doing with’. And resignation – well, I think it implies a negative state of mind. At heart I am an optimist so this does not sit well with me at all. There is also a danger that it could lead to resentment and anger. And that’s not good. It could lead to conflict. And conflict could lead to all sorts of other nasty things. Not that I’m averse to the odd disagreement or healthy debate about differing points of view. That’s a good thing. What I’m talking about here is the escalation of negativity that can easily spin out of control. Often it’s the petty little things that are the catalyst. Like the proverbial “I’m mad you left the lid off the toothpaste” kind of thing. And before you know it relationships break down. You get ‘kicked’ so you ‘kick’ the cat or the dog or yell at the kids. Neighbourhood disputes occur. Road rage happens. Communities boil over into rage. Countries go to war….I’m sure you get my drift, even though it may seem a bit of an exaggerated extreme.
Learning to live and cope with change is so important. It’s a life skill we all need.
Take home message
For me it’s all in how I think about things. Now I know that sounds trite, but it’s true. If I think something is really bad, then that’s how it is – regardless of what others may think. And it keeps on being bad until I decide that it’s not. Here’s an example from my life. As a kid I absolutely detested onions. Just the thought of eating them made me feel sick. In fact, even after we got married I refused to have them in the house for years. Until one day I discovered that onions are a wonderful flavour enhancer for all kinds of food. AND they’re good for you! It’s like the onion light bulb was switched on in that moment. Now I put them in just about every savoury dish I make. And I love them. However, I do draw the line at what Mum used to do. She juiced raw onion, rubbed it into her hair and scalp, and left it steep overnight. Apparently it stopped your hair from going grey. It didn’t. And it stank !!
Here’s a little something to inspire you!
I found this great video on Asthefateswouldhaveit – Thanks Lori !
This has also been written as a response to Lady Calen’s Sandbox Challenge 66.
This adorable little fellow is my new Santa tabletop decoration. Isn’t he the cutest thing ever?!
We received an early Christmas gift from TRH’s cousin in Finland in time for Advent. This gorgeous old fashioned ‘pop a window open daily’ Advent calendar was one of the things in it. Took us right back to childhood when Advent calendars were the most exciting thing – a way to count down to the big day, Christmas Eve. There’s a new picture under each number with a manger scene at #24.
I’m a bit late this year with putting up the Christmas decorations. I blame the house munchers. My attention was diverted to other things temporarily. However, that has been rectified today and the house is –
♥ To those celebrating Christmas, I wish you every blessing in this period of waiting ♥
♥ To those who do not, I wish you every blessing in your life ♥
♥ May your life be filled with peace and love ♥